Actual footage of me searching for my “why”. (GIF courtesy of giphy.com)
Recently, I’ve been noticing a recurring theme pop up in my life: the importance of understanding my “why.”
Why do I do what I do?
Wait. What do I do?
When I focus on my “why” rather than my “what,” I find that my “what” becomes far more flexible. I give myself permission to grow and pivot when my “why” is at the core of what I do.
I’ll continue to evolve and, with my growth, my “why” might evolve as well, but in this moment, my “why” can be summed up with a quote by Marianne Williamson:
“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Right now, this is my “why.” I want people to know they are not alone. I don’t want to contribute to pluralistic ignorance anymore.
It was scary to lean into what makes me different, but when I did, I learned that when we allow ourselves to shine, our shine becomes a lighthouse, a beacon that attracts our people.
You know when you’ve found your people, it’s the moment when you’re in company that makes your soul feel at ease. Moments like these are proof that you are not alone. But first, you’ve got to stop dulling your own shine in an attempt to be what you think other people expect you to be.
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Side note: People have far more to worry about than their expectations for others, so if others’ expectations for you weigh heavily on you, I’d suggest having an honest conversation about it with that other person if you can. If you’re not comfortable enough with nor close enough to that other person to have a conversation about their expectations for you, then ask yourself why their expectations weigh so heavily on you. Only you can evaluate that for yourself.